On Oprah today, a wife told her husband for the first time that she owes $160,000 in student loans. She seems to have picked a particularly bad time to unload this morsel of information on him: soon after becoming pregnant with twins. The husband, who came across like the typical stoic male afraid to show his real feelings, especially on a TV talk show that pitches to women, said quietly that hearing this was "like being hit in the head with a bowling ball."
Oprah brought onto the set a budget expert to help them. This "expert" almost immediately rebuked the husband, “You owe your wife an apology.” Stunned, the husband could do no more than stare at him. Even Oprah scoffed: “You may be great in what you do, but I disagree.”
The problem, I think, is that Oprah herself may not realize that men invited onto her show likely feel pressured by their fear of being booed to say what they think Oprah and her predominantly female audience want to hear. Even when a woman is clearly in the wrong, men on the show tend to defend her and often blame the husband or boyfriend. (To get a better feel for the feminized atmosphere on daytime TV talk shows, read An Open Letter to Dr. Phil.)