Male Matters explores gender matters that pertain to males. In doing so, it shows that the male matters as much as the female.
The views herein are not entirely non-feminist, but are predominantly so. Thus you will find here a gender world far different from the one generally constructed by the mainstream media and most leading ideological feminists.
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Yea big boy you rant and rave. But what are you going to DO about it.
Bitch? If man created VAWA2005 then fix it. I am suffering what men have
suffered for years. Ahhhh the change of tides. Finally a woman restrained,
fighting for custody and freedoms. None of you have done anything towards
changing a flawed law. As you sit high and mighty in front of your computer
screen to read all about it take one moment to reflect. Reflect on the fact
that this is not a gender fueled issue. Sure women have brunted it less but
the same back stabbing can be applied to a woman as simply as a man.
Here's the secret for all you newbies: He who pulls the ex parte first
wins. Its a race to the "i'm scared' podium where you too can make your
spouse suffer unimaginable misery and ruin. As a bonus your children get to
be traumatized from one parent being ripped from thier world then bad
mouthed ad nauseum. The DVRO is also the favorite of the attorney who
leaves 'MORAL TURPITUDE' out of his personal to do list. Come on here. Can
we all stop bitching about it and do something here? I'll be your poster
girl fighting for equal right and against a flawed law. Just keep the eggs
away from me. After all that was his complaint: "she broke a raw egg on my
pillow and when i asked her about it she called me an egghead". Yes Sir
Domestic Violence at its prime. Now forced out of my civil rights, gun
owner rights, my home, personal belongings and most anything that means the
most to me. Like my children, my freedoms, my right to bear arms and the
chrystal butter dish passed down to me by my great Grandmother. All based
on 'preponderance'. Ludicrous. If anything is done to VAWA it has to start
at the burdon of proof. My opinion.
Amyhland I have absolutely no sympathy for your plight, while I do feel
for your children. This whole mess has been brought about by women aided by
insecure men, homosexuals and lesbians. The fact is women are shallow and
mouldable, I do not say this in a derogatory term, but as a fact. Over the
last million years men and women have lived in harmony with each other,
while in the last 30/40 years women have clearly stated they do not like
this natural way of life and want to be as a man.
There are no such groups as "men" and "women" conspiring against each
other. I had nothing to do with deranged liberal feminist propaganda, I
cannot reverse the laws, and I do not control today's media. Most men and
women are in the same position. So stop bashing all women. There are many
of us who love men and want them to be happy, and fulfilled. We are not
your enemy. You sound like pathetic impotent victims which is very
unattractive in a man.
What if a woman's job was not to adavance and "forward mankind"? What if
her main function is to provide a nurturing stable environment for the man
where he can find and engage his greatness? What if she were gifted just
for such a purpose, to be a helper, a friend, a cofidante, a partner for
the man? I believe it is the case. Do you really want women to be like men?
What is lacking today in men and women is compassion for the opposite
gender. We are very different, but most people are ignorant about these
differences. They are meant to compliment each other, not to provoke
conflict. Very few of us are in a position to change the world, but we can
change and empower ourselves. Men's anger hides betrayal, hurt,
humiliation, impotence they feel today as they are being demonized by
media, manipulated by women, and mistreated by the legal system. There are
more mature and constructive ways of dealing with these emotions than
pouring derision upon women. Real men, James, do not treat women that way.
And yes, there many of them left. I am married to one. They have simply
learned that the only power women have over them, you men give it to them.
Just stop doing it. Nobody can relegate you to compost heap without your
consent.
Kira I took a look at you blog site and was not impressed! The reason we
animals are on this planet is to reproduce, that’s it. God, gods and
goddesses are the invention of primitive man. The happiest of couples are
those who have large family’s 6,7,8,9, children.
Jim, this is not an appropriate forum to launch a personal attack on me.
This is Male Matters blog. I understand that you are not a supporter of the
men's rights movement and think that real men should "stand alone". I
disagree with you as I disagree with your views on God and women. If this
is a clumsy attempt to hurt or embarass me, don't! I am light years ahead
of you, pal!
I f you are looking for real men I think you've come to the right place
here. Mature men focus on issues that face men today, not on creating
websites that hurt and humiliate women through pornographic vulgar images
and words and blame women for all the problems that exist today. There are
definite gender inequalities in regards to men that need to be addressed.
It is childish to think that complex problems that exist in today's
society, including gender conflict, can be attributed to one group of
people or to "all women", just like "men" have never oppressed "women", in
my opinion, as feminists claim.
I think that wide dissemination and misinterpretation of evolution theory,
for example, has contributed greatly to social ills we face today. You can
only tell people that they are animals driven by nothing but instinct for
so long until they start acting accordingly. And there is a perfectly
logical explanation to the gender conflict from the evolutionary standpoint
(to which I do not subscribe, but have studied in detail). According to
Richard Dawkins, the evolutionary biologist who is one of the most
outspoken defenders of atheism and evolution theory, much of our
development happens as a result of the "evolutionary arms race", sexual
conflict between male and female of the species being an example. It is not
difficult to apply it to our current situation and, according to this
theory, men and women have not been getting along for millions of years, we
have always been in conflict due to differences in parental investment in
eggs (expensive) and sperm (cheap). So, at this stage women have won, but
it will come full cycle as men are waking up to this fact.
This is not my belief system but that's what you get when you reduce human
beings to animals. Evolutionary philosophy spawned communism, fascism,
racism, and radical feminism. It is only logical that it would . Evolution
is all about struggle and conflict, survival of the fittest, selfishness.
Class struggle naturally follows, and radical feminism is, essentially, a
class struggle of "opressed" females against "opressor " class: males. It
is a malicious destructive movement set to destroy all patriarchal
institutions of oppression", such as marriage, the very fiber that has held
our western societies together for hundreds of years, and to marginalize
men. Many men have allowed and enabled this movement, and played into it by
abdicating their roles as fathers and leaders. Many men championed
feminism. Some of the freedoms women have gained were fair, in my opinion,
and that is why many men supported feminism. And that is why so many men
now justifiably feel betrayed when the feminist movement turned against
them and they ended up in the "opressed" position! But retreating into the
"victim" role and accusing "women" is just as destructive and immature as
feminists doing it to men. We have all contributed to the problem, if in no
other way, then by mindlessly taking in feminist liberal propaganda and not
questioning things. We watch TV and let children watch TV, having them
poisoned against their fathers right in front of us while we pay for our
cable access. My husband and I have not watched TV since 1999 choosing to
use internet instead, and have not missed a thing. These are complex issues
that will require all of our cooperation to solve. Bashing, blaming,
accusing each other will not get us anywhere.
Kira, I am sorry that you feel that I am personally attacking you, which is
absolutely untrue. You also put words in my mouth which are also untrue. I
simply speak the truth I reflect just what is happening in today’s sick
society.
Once again, this blog site is not about me, Jim. I have my own, you can
direct your comments there.
You say yourself that men and women have different brain structure, and I
agree. We are wired very differently. We need to understand and appreciate
that about each other. These are complimenatry abilities. When used
synergistically we can solve the problems facing us. Pointing fingers and
accusing and blaming each other will not get us far.
Women's IQ is on average slightly lower than men's on the bell curve
distribution. Some women are much more intelligent than some men and some
men are much more intelligent than most men and women. The exceptional
scientific genius individuals almost without exception have been men.
Again, it is because men's brains are wired that way. That is what they
contribute to the world. It does not mean that women cannot be scientists,
it just means that they are much less likely to attain the genius level,
but there are many who are doing important research and contributing to
advancement of mankind.
Women are emotional geniuses, and on emotional EQ scale men would trail far
below them. Women have superior language and communication abilities, for
example because at 8 weeks gestation male embryo's brain is flooded by
testosterone which destroys a great deal of neurons in the communication
center and enlarges sex center to twice the size that of the female brain.
We come into this world with different hardware. So, women are not meant to
be genius scientists, but they can be very good scientists. Most men are
not meant to to be stay-at-home dads, but they can be great fathers. We
need to learn about and appreciate our differences. Would we really want
each other to be the same?
Happy fulfilled life is not found just by following one's biological
instincts. Instinct to eat has gotten us obese, instinct to mate gets us
into all sorts of trouble and brings no end of misery to families and
children through adultery, instinct to kill lands people in jail and brings
others grief. The very thing that separates us from animals is the ability
to NOT act on our instincts but to think and act out of preselected set of
values. I know exactly who I am, where I want to be, what I want in my
life, where I am headed. It most definitely does not eliminate the element
of mystery and surprise. Life with God is all about adventure. "if you want
to make God laugh, tell Him your plans". My life is happy and fulfilled,
and I want to share with others what I have learned so they too can have
happiness, peace, and fulfillment. My life is full of love and passion, I
have a reason for living. Blaming others gives away one's power. Taking
full responsibility for one's own part in life is the way to take the power
back. I love men, and together with my husband we are doing our part to
make this a better world for men, women, and families. I have no tolerance
for "victims".
I have noticed that most of men who pour derision on women and claim that
"women are useless" because they have done nothing to advance mankind have
not done much of anything themselves. Just like the women they despise they
are riding on the coattails of great men, contributing little but their
hate and cruelty to the society. I am a surgeon. In the course of my
practice I have saved numerous lives, impacted lives for the better, cured
infections and cancer. I am not bragging, I am just making a point. There
are women engineers designing bridges and engines, women architects
designing buildings, women scientists discovering new drugs and
researching cure for cancer. No, they will never be Einsteins or Newtons.
Very few men will ever be. So what? We all contribute what we can. Many of
them are also wives and mothers. Yes, women have a strong maternal
instinct, but some, like me, choose to channel it differently. We need to
stop allowing the fringe hateful mean people on both sides to stir up the
gender conflict and work together on understanding and admiring each
other's differences.